Everybody loves celebrity weddings. Somehow, they seem to have even more magic than a regular wedding thanks to the A-list guest lists, paparazzi photos and the public love stories. But, that doesn’t mean all stars are into weddings. There are a number of celebrities who have been open about not buying into the concept of marriage. There are some who have changed their minds eventually, but there are other stars who are pretty adamant about their anti-marriage feelings. Don’t go confusing that with celebs who are against monogamy and love the single life, because some of the stars on the list are in long-term relationships that give anyone inspiration.
1. Jon Hamm
It seems that Jon Hamm was impacted by his parents’ divorce when he was young. The former Mad Men star explained to Playboy, “My parents got divorced when I was two and never remarried. So it doesn’t mean anything to me. I don’t mean to say that it shouldn’t mean things to other people. I’m not judging it one way or another.” He also said to Parade in 2010, “I don’t have the marriage chip.” In 2015, he split from longtime partner Jennifer Westfeldt after dating since 1997.
2. Goldie Hawn
Goldie Hawn has actually been married. She was married to Gus Trikonis from 1969 to 1976 and Bill Hudson from 1976 to 1982. As someone who has seen both sides of things, she likely knows what she’s talking about, especially since she has been with partner Kurt Russell since 1983. She might be constantly asked about when and if she will get hitched with Kurt, but she doesn’t appear to feel the need. She explained, “A lasting relationship isn’t about marriage. It’s about compatibility and communication.” She elaborated in another interview, “The question is, ‘Why [get married]?’ it’s not, ‘Why not?’ We love each other. We fight the way people are supposed to fight. We love our lives together.”
3. Oprah Winfrey
The partnership of Oprah Winfrey and Steadman Graham is frequently listed as one of the longest-lasting celebrity relationships. They have been together for over 30 years. But marriage? It’s not in the cards for O. She has been very vocal about her decision not to marry and “living life on your own terms.” She told Vogue in 2017 about fitting into marriage roles and how she and Steadman probably wouldn’t be together if they did get hitched. “We would not have stayed together, because marriage requires a different way of being in this world,” the mogul explained. “His interpretation of what it means to be a husband and what it would mean for me to be a wife would have been pretty traditional, and I would not have been able to fit into that.”
4. Sarah Silverman
Sarah Silverman has had some high profile, long-term relationships with other A-listers like Michael Sheen and Jimmy Kimmel. But, she hasn’t walked down the aisle. She “consciously uncoupled” from Michael over Christmas 2017. In terms of marriage, she said her 2010 book The Bedwetter, that she wouldn’t want to get married until same-sex couples could legally do so. She later made it clear that she had no intentions of it, period. In 2014, she tweeted after rumors surfaced that she was going to tie the knot with Jimmy. “Just read that I wanna get married which is hilarious [because] I will never get married. Why would I want the [government] involved in my love life? Ew. It’s barbaric.”
5. Chelsea Handler
We can always count on Chelsea Handler for her honesty. Even if you know just a bit about her, you will know that she’s not into the idea of marriage. The comedienne wrote in a Time essay about single shaming, “I come from a big, loving family. I’ve had plenty of boyfriends, one or two marriage proposals and deep and intense human intimacy in my time on this Big Blue Marble. And after experiencing all that and seriously thinking about marriage, I respectfully reserve a table for one in the restaurant of life.”
6. Scott Disick
When Scott Disick and Kourtney Kardashian were together, they both made things pretty clear that they didn’t have any interest in walking down the aisle, kids or no kids. When Scott and Kourtney were still together, he told Ryan Seacrest in 2014 why he wasn’t that interested in marriage. “I think if it’s not broke, don’t fix it. I used to want to get married more than she did, and then, being that she was always so not interested, I’ve decided not to be.”
7. Kristin Davis
Everybody remembers how Kristin Davis’ Sex and the City character, Charlotte York, had marriage on her mind. But, it appears to be a different case for the actress. “Little girls who say, ‘I want to get married’; I was never one of those little girls. It is not that I wouldn’t, but I don’t see that I must do it or be unhappy,” she explained in an interview in 2008. “I don’t know if I’ll ever get married. I’m perfectly happy [with] my single self.” She’s adopted two children on her own and doesn’t seem to be on the hunt for anyone to make her family feel more whole.
8. Sheryl Crow
Sheryl Crow has had some high-profile relationships. One of the most noteworthy was her engagement to Lance Armstrong. The relationship ended after three years together. In 2014, she shared her complicated thoughts about marriage. “I don’t think marriage is the be-all and end-all,” the country singer explained. “It’s better to have three broken engagements than three divorces.” She went on to explain that when she was in her previous relationships with successful men, they made her “feel small.”
9. Lauren Graham
Everybody knows the relationship history and opinions of Lorelai Gilmore on Gilmore Girls but are you as familiar with Lauren Graham’s? The actress has been in a relationship with Peter Krause since 2010, but their status hasn’t impacted her desire to get married. When she was asked in 2014 on The Ellen Show about ever tying the knot, Lauren replied, “I don’t know. We are very happy as we are and I never have a good question for this answer,” she said. “I feel like close to five years in Hollywood, it’s like, aren’t we married already really? It’s good the way it is.” Four years later it seems her thoughts haven’t changed as the two are still happily not-married to one another.
10. Diane Kruger
Many are probably familiar with Diane Kruger’s long-term relationship with Joshua Jackson, but did you know that she was married prior to that? She was actually married to French actor Guillaume Canet from 2001 to 2006. The experience seems to have shaped her thoughts on getting married again. “Without sounding pessimistic, I learned that I don’t believe in marriage,” she told Glamour in 2011 while still with Joshua. “I believe in a commitment that you make in your heart. There’s no paper that will make you stay.” In an interview about her “liberating” split from Joshua, she said, “I just want to be present in my life and not try to project so much into the future…Being too comfortable freaks me out, so I like the idea of doing new things…I think life’s better with somebody holding your hand, but I’ve also learned that I need to take care of myself first. In the past, I’ve been incredibly disappointed in people. You think you’re moving toward the same goal, and then you’re not.” Do you, girl!
11. Eva Mendes
Have you ever wondered why Ryan Gosling and Eva Mendes aren’t married? Eva’s thoughts on marriage could have something to do with it. “I’m not like anti-marriage or the institution, like for other people. And I love the idea of a union — that’s all very beautiful. But I think, you know, it’s a very old-fashioned, archaic kind-of-thing. We did it for land originally. How unromantic is that?” she said during a Chelsea Lately interview in 2011. “I actually think it’s really sexy to be with someone in your 50s and 60s and be like, ‘That’s my boyfriend.’ I think husband and wife is just… very unsexy.” She and Ryan are pretty much the sexiest people in the biz, so she’s probably onto something.
12. Diane Keaton
Diane Keaton is a strong, independent women who is living her own life. She has previously admitted that she was intrigued by the idea of marriage, but actually choosing one partner to go through with it? Nah. “I’m attracted to men, and I love playing around with them. But a life shared together? That’s a different world,” she explained to More.com. “I think you have to be somebody who can compromise and be realistic. I could never do it. Ever.”
13. Charlize Theron
Charlize Theron has been in a few long-term relationships and it seems like that is good enough for her. She doesn’t need the big ceremony. “[Marriage] was never something that was important to me. I don’t know the exact reason for that. I really want for myself a long-term relationship,” she told Piers Morgan during an interview in 2011. “And I have been in long-term relationships. That’s the kind of union that I want. The actual ceremony is not something that is important to me, but I see the importance for other people.”
14. Ricky Gervais
Here’s another male who isn’t into the institution of marriage. Ricky Gervais might know what he’s talking about considering he has been with partner Jane Fallon for 35 years (and counting). He previously said to David Letterman, “I don’t think there’s any point to us getting married. We don’t want any more toasters, [and] we never want our families to meet. That would be terrible.”
15. Kourtney Kardashian
We’ve heard what Scott Disick thinks about marriage, now it’s time to hear what the mother of his three children, Kourtney Kardashian, thinks. She explained during a 2012 interview with Jimmy Kimmel that she “had major commitment issues.” She continued that she viewed her relationship with Scott as being the same as sister Khloe Kardashian‘s, who was then married to Lamar Odom. “We are committed to each other, we are together, we have a great partnership,” she said.
16. Susan Sarandon
In 2009, romantics everywhere were rocked when it was revealed that Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins were parting ways after 23 years together. Prior to that, she was married to Chris Sarandon from 1969 to 1979. The divorce likely changed any future plans for marriage. Speaking about her split from Tim in 2010, the actress said, “I’ve always liked the idea of choosing to be with somebody. I thought that if you didn’t get married you wouldn’t take each other for granted as easily. I don’t know if after twenty-something years that was still true.”
17. Evangeline Lily
Evangeline Lily is another one who has been married before, then changed her tune on the whole ordeal. She was briefly married from 2003 to 2004. It seems the experience has shaped her future as she hasn’t married again and doesn’t seem keen on the idea. The actress dated Lost costar Dominic Monaghan for five years before getting together with partner Norman Kali in 2010. About the idea of the two of them getting married, the actress has said, “Every other 16-year-old girl wanted to look at bridal magazines; I could not have been more bored with the notion.” She added that she might consider marriage for logistical and government situations but “emotionally, neither of us really feels the need for it. We love each other today, and we hope we’ll love each other tomorrow. In my world, I don’t believe in forever promises. I don’t think it’s realistic.”